We all feel rejected at some point in our lives. It’s an inevitable part of life that can’t be escaped. However, some people seem to be more sensitive to rejection than others, to the extent that they feel paralysed by anxiety and depression.
Rejection can be experienced in romantic relationships, in social and group settings, or in our work environment. It triggers deep-rooted feelings in us. We become extremely anxious that we’re not lovable or acceptable.
We fear that people don’t want to be with us, dislike us and we’re going to end up feeling left out and alone. These feelings and thoughts can be very distressing, occupying our minds and affecting our daily lives. Our minds can become so drowned in these thoughts that they leave us almost paralysed, anxious and depressed.
Do you find yourself procrastinating, avoiding doing a task that needs to be accomplished? Do you find yourself doing all sorts of other things just to avoid or put off urgent tasks?
In this blog, I am going to talk to you about some deeper roots that can play a huge part in procrastination. Bear in mind that there are so many different causes of not only procrastination but of all other negative patterns, but in this blog I’ll only be focusing on one or two, just to give you an idea of how the unconscious works.
Why do we really procrastinate?
You probably know that anxiety plays a big part in your procrastination and vice versa, as procrastination will increase your anxiety too. You may procrastinate in your work, in your relationship, in your social gatherings. You may miss deadl...
Anxiety is often tied to inacceptable thoughts and feelings that may be buried in our unconscious because they are difficult to feel or think about.
We, as human beings, and especially as children, can be put in situations that may create difficult and negative emotions for us. Because these emotions are difficult to feel and think about, they become stored away in our unconscious.
Barry is a child who really needs his mother's love and attention. However, she is preoccupied with her own difficulties and negative emotions, such as depression. As a result, she finds it hard to give Barry the attention a child needs. Because Barry is only a child and finds it hard to make sense of his mother's depression, he takes it personally. He feels rejected, unwanted and furious about his mother'...
Are you feeling scared and anxious all the time, feeling as though everything is threatening and dire?
Is there a feeling of relentless dread, thinking that something dangerous may happen to you?
Anxiety may have different sources, but, in this blog, I'm going to talk to you specifically about the persistent anxiety and fear about an impending danger. I will explore other possible roots of anxiety in my other blogs.
You probably know that anxiety is a normal reaction to stress. At times, it can be a good thing as it motivates you to accomplish your goals, and it can also warn you when you’re in a dangerous situation.
However, when you are in constant state of anxiety, then you become physically and emotionally restless, tense and exhausted. You'll probably find yourself tossing and tu...